How to Gain Confidence – What is True Confidence?

Do you look at movie stars and think “Wow, I wish ISomeone might be very incredibly gifted at playing the
was as confident as them!”guitar, but hopelessly unconfident when speaking in
Funnily enough, most of those movie stars are actuallyfront of audiences. If you saw them playing the guitar,
some of the most insecure people. Their veryyou might mistakenly assume that because they look
livelihoods live and die on the perceptions others haveconfident doing something they are very good at, that
of them. In many cases, their confidence is an illusion.this would transfer to other areas. It often doesn’t.
But they rely on the outward projection ofIn this situation, their confidence isn’t true
self-assurance as part of their job.confidence. It is confidence that stems from their hours
But this isn’t restricted to stars of the silver screen.of practice at playing the guitar. When they are doing
We are generally very bad at picking who is confidentwhat they are good at they give a very convincing
and who isn’t. You can almost “confidently”illusion of being confident. But in this case, the confident
say that most people are not truly confident.isn’t able to be transferred to other areas of life.
When I say truly confident, I am talking about beingIf you want to be “truly confident”, your
broadly confident in all areas of life. I am talking aboutself-esteem needs to be able to keep firm, even when
people who are able to be confident even in areasyou cross over from familiar situations to unfamiliar,
where they are out of their comfort zone.unknown scenarios.
The thing is, just because a person is confident in oneYou can learn to be confident. When you are truly
area of life, by no means are they necessarilyconfident, you can cope with whatever challenges life
confident in others.throws at you.