How the Way You Define Yourself Affects Your Whole Life

How do you define yourself?Vallely, Sensational Meditation for Children
Journal ExerciseWhen we think ourselves to be a certain thing, we will
Grab your journal or a pen and a piece of paper andlive out the experiences of someone who is that thing.
write down ten words to describe yourself. These canA Brief Meditation
be good qualities or ones you don't like as much orClose your eyes and imagine that in front of you is a
words that feel neutral.row of doors. Each one has one of the descriptive
After you have made your list, go back and look atwords you chose. Once you choose a door, open it
each one. Take a moment to consider how you cameand step inside, you will have an entire day created by
to describe yourself that way. Did someone tell youthat label. All of your experiences will reflect that
that you fit that description or did you decidedescriptive word as if it is your only truth.
completely on your own?Which one would you choose?
Next to each descriptive word or label, write what youNow, imagine turning around and seeing a door with no
can remember about how you came to know yourselfwords on it. There is blank space to write one on it if
that way.you want, or you can leave it blank. If you choose to
I feel quite sure that some of your labels are outdated,walk through that door, your day will be completely
and your current experience does not bear them out.unpredictable.
And some were never true to begin with but youWhat might that day be like for you?
drew the conclusion about yourself because of painfulTake a few minutes to imagine having your
early experiences or you came to believe whatexperience completely created by the way you define
someone else told you or thought of you withoutyourself (because it is) and decide what you want to
questioning its veracity.do with this gift of a day you have been given.
Diminishing Your ExperienceThat exact same choice is yours every day.
"One of the ways we close down is by confining"Becoming aware of the words we use to describe
ourselves to certain 'rooms' in our castle of experience.ourselves --words we have absorbed or invented--
As the years go by, we define ourselves more andempowers us to let them go if we choose to do so." -
more narrowly. Whether we decide we are a certainSarah Wood Vallely, Sensational Meditation for
way or we hear others repeatedly label us as such,Children
ultimately, we accept the definitions and labels....WhenDefine yourself using words that inspire and empower
we take on labels to define who we are, we confinebut do not restrict, and heal whatever binds you to the
ourselves and diminish our experience." - Sarah Woodlabels that no longer serve you.